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中国著名心理学家 “三位一体成功激励心理疗法”创始人——孙东刚
Sun Donggang, founder of Trinity Successful Incentive Psytherapy, a famous Chinese psychologist
孙东刚,高级心理督导师,师资类心理咨询师,师资类心理指导师,高级注册心理咨询师,高级私人心理顾问,高级亲子咨询师,心理减压师,高级学习能力指导师,高级学习方法指导师,师资类学习指导师,师资类人生学指导师,心理学专家,学习指导专家,实验教学管理专家。
Sun Donggang, senior psychological supervisor, teacher psychological consultant, teacher psychological instructor, senior registered psychological consultant, senior private psychological consultant, senior parent-child consultant, psychological pision, stress reduction, senior learning ability instructor, senior learning method instructor, teacher learning instructor, teacher life instructor, psychology experts, learning guidance experts, experimental teaching management experts.
社会职务
Social position
中国人生科学学会心理学专家委员会常务副秘书长,中国人圆梦行动计划项目管委会副主任兼专家委员会主任(疫情期间曾任抗击疫情圆梦专家救援团团长,并获抗击疫情工作先进个人荣誉称号,工作事迹被写入《司令员眼中的抗疫英雄》下册中),中央电视台决策中国专家智库联盟常务副理事长兼专家委员,爱可恩(中国)心理科技研究院客座教授,爱可恩心理科技研究院副院长兼基础教育研究所所长,中华融媒体教育心理频道责任编辑,教育主管部门兼职教研员等。
Executive Deputy Secretary-General of Psychology Expert Committee of Chinese Society of Life Sciences, Deputy Director of the Management Committee of the Chinese Dream Realization Action Plan and Director of the Expert Committee (the head of the expert rescue Team of the epidemic during the epidemic, He also won the honorary title of Advanced Inpidual in the fight against the epidemic, His work deeds have been included in the second volume of the Anti-Epidemic Heroes in the Eyes of the Commander), Executive Vice Chairman and expert member of CCTV Decision-Making China Expert Think Tank Alliance, Visiting Professor of Aiken (China) Institute of Psychological Science and Technology, Vice President of Aiken Institute of Psychological Science and Technology and Director of the Institute of Basic Education, Editor of China Huarong Media Education Psychology Channel Responsibility, Education competent departments part-time teaching and research staff.
取得的学术成果
Academic achievements made
主编研发的《学习指导师培训教材》获中国人圆梦行动计划管委会“全国重点推广项目”,在多年实践中总结研发出《三位一体成功激励心理疗法》,并在实践中用于学困生、德困生转化使数百名学生实现成功转化,取得非常好的实践效果,研发的“个性化学习指导方案”及“方法结构”系统,用于指导做学生个案分析与学习指导,帮助学生找到适合学生自己的科学学习方法,在上百例个案实践中,取得优秀的实践效果,帮助上百学生实现了美好的大学梦想!
The "Learning Tutor Training Textbook" developed by the chief editor was awarded the "National Key Promotion Project" by the Chinese Dream Realization Action Plan Management Committee, In years of practice, summarized and developed "Trinity successful incentive psychotherapy", And in practice for the transformation of poor students, poor students so that hundreds of students to achieve successful transformation, Get very good practical results, The "personalized learning guidance program" and "method structure" system developed, Used to guide the student case analysis and study guidance, Help students find scientific learning methods for students themselves, In hundreds of case practices, Get excellent practical results, Help the hundreds of students to realize their beautiful college dreams!
孙老师是全球影响力时代华人网特邀入驻心理学名家,出版有《一心向学出成果,传道授业有收获》、人《生感悟》等书,孙老师是第一部介绍人生学大型典籍《人生学》第一副主编,大型典籍《人生与幸福》第一副主编,《中小学生心理健康手册》副主编,《五行心理学》心理专家顾问等。
Sun teacher is a global influence era Chinese net invited in psychology masters, published "dedicated to learn results, preach," comprehension "and other books, sun teacher is the first to introduce life large classics" life "first deputy editor, large classics" life and happiness " first deputy editor, the primary and middle school students mental health manual deputy editor, the five elements of psychology psychological expert consultant, etc.
孙老师在教育文献书籍、国家期刊、报纸、媒体等发表论文及相关专业文章百余篇,在全国各地做有关教育、心理、方法指导等报告数百场,鉴于孙老师在心理学研究上取得的成就,作为心理学专家被选入《见证祖国70年》大型典籍,鉴于孙老师在学术上取得的成果,获CCTV推荐心理专家称号,并成功入驻名人百科、中国影响力人物数据库。
Sun teacher in education literature books, national journals, newspapers, media and other papers and related professional articles, across the country about education, psychology, method guidance report hundreds, given the achievements in psychology research, as psychology experts was selected into the witness the motherland 70 years " large classics, given the teacher in academic achievements, the CCTV recommended psychological experts, and successfully in celebrity encyclopedia, Chinese influence figure database.
孙东刚教授在教育学和心理学及方法科学等方面研究的研究成果刊发文章统计:
Professor Sun Donggang has published an article with statistics on his research results in pedagogy, psychology and methodological science:
中国大型教育典籍《创新教育理论与教育实践研究》第三卷,大型典籍《见证祖国70年》、中国关于人生科学系统研究大型典籍《人生学》第一副主编、大型典籍《人生与幸福》第一副主编、《中小学生心理健康手册》副主编,《现代教育教学研究》、《考试报》、《学习方法报》《现代教育教学探索》、《青年文艺》、《读写算教育专刊》等出版书籍和刊物!
China large education classics "innovation education theory and education practice research" volume 3, large classics "witness the motherland 70 years", China about life science system research "life" first deputy editor, large books of life and happiness, deputy mental health manual, modern education teaching research, exam newspaper, learning method of modern education teaching exploration, youth literature, reading and writing education special issue published books and publications!
另有知名媒体:中央电视台《决策中国》官网多篇、《今日头条》被推荐数十篇、《百度网络》被推荐数十篇,《搜狐网》多篇、《中华网教育心理频道》多篇、《中华融媒体》多篇、《凤凰网》多篇、《中国心理卫生人才网》多篇!(注统计的是市级以上的刊物及媒体).
Another well-known media: CCTV "decision China" website more, "headlines" was recommended dozens, "baidu network" recommended dozens, "sohu", "China network education psychological channel", "huarong media", "phoenix", "China mental health talent network" more!(Note that the publications and media at or above the municipal level count).
另外,孙东刚教授有自己著作《一心向学出成果、传道授业有收获》、《人生感悟》、《学习指导师培训教材》、《中学生学习方法校本教材》、《方法结构研究》、《中学生考试心理与考试策略能力培养》、《三位一体成功激励疗法》等专著和专论研究等成.
In addition, professor dong-gang sun has his own works "dedicated to learn results, preaching has harvest", "life perception", "learning instructor training textbook", "the middle school students learning method school-based textbook", "method structure research", "middle school students test psychology and examination strategy ability training", "the trinity successful incentive therapy" and other monographs and monograph research, etc.
孙老师数十年来一直致力于心理学,中学生学习心理和科学学习方法的研究工作,成果颇丰,在刊物及媒体发表论文及相关文章百余篇,孙老师研究总结的“三位一体成功激励心理疗法”用于学困生转化,取得了优秀的实践效果,使数百名问题学生实现成功转化。孙老师所研发的学习方法指导师培训项目被中国人圆梦计划项目管委会指定为“全国重点推广项目”。
Sun teacher for decades has been committed to psychology, research on middle school students learning psychology and scientific learning methods of work, fruitful, in publications and media and related articles, sun teacher research summary of "trinity successful incentive psychotherapy" for poor students, has achieved excellent practical effect, make hundreds of problem students to achieve successful transformation.The learning method instructor training project developed by Mr.Sun was designated as the "National Key Promotion Project" by the Management Committee of the Chinese Dream Realization Plan Project.
孙老师在全国各地为学生、家长做各类学习方法指导及亲子讲座报告数百场,每次做完报告,师生家长反响热烈,深受欢迎!业务专长:孙老师尤其擅长学生的个案分析研究,包括学生学情分析,心理分析,障碍分析,引导学生建立目标,情感激励,增强心能量,培养自信,培养毅力。方法指导,专注力培养,记忆力培养,培养好习惯,调节学生形成良好考试心理,考试策略与能力培养等等。孙老师在分析学生个案基础上善于指导学生形成适合学生个体的个性化的学习方法,并研发出“个性化学习指导方案”,“三位一体成功激励心理方法”,“科学学习方法研究一如何提高学习效率”,“实验教学科学化、制度化、规范化、程序化管理流程”,“方法结构”等研究成果。
Mr.Sun gave hundreds of learning methods and parent-child lectures for students and parents all over the country. After finishing the report, teachers, students and parents responded warmly and were deeply welcomed!Business expertise: Mr.Sun is especially good at students 'case analysis and research, including students' learning situation analysis, psychological analysis, obstacle analysis, and guide students to establish goals, emotional motivation, enhance heart energy, cultivate self-confidence and perseverance.Method guidance, focus on force training, memory training, cultivate good habits, adjust the students to form a good examination psychology, examination strategy and ability training and so on.Sun teacher on the basis of the student case is good at guiding students to form suitable for students inpidual personalized learning method, and developed a "personalized learning guidance program", "trinity successful incentive psychological method", "a scientific learning method study how to improve learning efficiency", "experimental teaching scientific, institutionalized, standardized, programmed management process", "method structure" and other research results.
在行业内,孙老师作为一名高级心理督导师,孙老师擅长以下领域:认知疗法,完形疗法,历经几十年的学习研究,孙老师独创有“三位一体成功激励心理疗法”,“个性化学习指导技术”等研究成果!
In the industry, Mr.Sun is a senior psychological supervisor as a senior supervisor. Mr.Sun is good at the following fields: cognitive therapy and gestalt therapy. After decades of learning and research, Mr.Sun has created the original research results of "Trinity successful incentive psychological therapy" and "personalized learning guidance and technology"!
在以上这些方面需要督导提高的心理咨询师可以跟孙老师联系交流,在学习上“没有学习动力”或者“学习动力不足”、“不在学习状态”、“学习不得法”、“学习效率不高”的中小学生可以提前预约找孙老师咨询!
In the above aspects need to supervise and improve the psychological counselors can contact with Sun, in learning "no learning motivation" or "learning motivation", "not learning state", "learning method", "learning efficiency" primary and middle school students can make an appointment to consult with Sun in advance!
(注:孙老师可以负责人的说,到目前为止,凡是认可孙老师的家长及学生,不论是学生心理问题,还是学习问题,还是亲子教育问题,能坚持找孙老师做下来的,当然,能坚持下来的相对来说比较少,但是,能坚持下来的,没有不成功的!
(Note: Sun teacher can say, so far, all recognized Sun teacher parents and students, whether students psychological problems, or learning problems, or parent-child education, can insist on finding Sun teacher to do down, of course, can stick to relatively less, but, can stick to, there is no success!
还需要说明一个问题,有的说,现在找孙老师咨询可难了!这个不否认,是的,主要是孙老师每天时间安排很紧张,每天都要要处理很多事情,但是,只要他有时间,无论是学生出身家庭怎样,在他这里,绝无高低贵贱之分,只要是有需求的,孙老师都一视同仁对待!尽自己所能,会向有需求的家长及学生提供力所能及的帮助!)
Still need to explain a problem, some say, now to find the Sun teacher consultation can be difficult!This does not deny, yes, the main is that Sun every day time arrangement is very tight, every day to deal with a lot of things, but, as long as he has time, no matter how the student family, in him here, no high and low points, as long as there is demand, Sun is treated equally!Do your best to provide help to parents and students to be in need!)
“三位一体成功激励心理技术”成果概述
Overview of the results of "Trinity successfully incentive psychological technology"
作者:孙东刚
Author: Sun Donggang
摘要:本文是根据自己多年来和学生做心理工作的经验,并结合自己的反思研究和总结而形成的科学研究成果,在成果总结研究中整合运用了心理学的关理论和方法,运用了方法论,系统论,控制论等领域的理论知识,最终形成自己的心理方法和体系。
Abstract: this article is based on their years and students do psychological work experience, and combined with their own reflection research and summary of scientific research results, integrated in the research of the psychological theory and method, using the methodology, system theory, cybernetic theory and other theoretical knowledge, finally form their own psychological method and system. 关键词心理,方法,激励,爱、能量,尊重,理解、自信心,目的,毅力
Keywords Psychology, method, motivation, love, energy, respect, understanding, self-confidence, purpose, perseverance
三位一体激励心理方法就是针对个体,运用心理激励技术,将个体内在的能量激发出来,使个体动力倍增,产生积极的能动的学习或工作的活动的过程。
The trinity incentive psychological method is the process of targeting inpiduals, with the use of psychological incentive technology, to stimulate the energy in the inpidual body, multiply the inpidual power, and produce active and dynamic learning or work activities.
实际上,每个个体都有着潜在的巨大能量,只是这种能量平时我们看不见,显现不出来而已,因为这种能量平时就潜伏隐藏在我们每个个体身体内部。一般地说,他们处于沉睡状态。而有的人或者说大多数人一般把自己这种潜在能量用的很少,甚至大多数人一生都没有开发出来,这样,也就导致了多数人的平庸人生。
In fact, every inpidual has a potential huge energy, but this energy usually we can not see, can not appear, because this energy is usually hidden in each of our inpidual bodies.Generally speaking, they are in a sleeping state.Some people or most people generally use their own potential energy very little, or even most people do not develop it in their lives, which leads to the mediocre life of most people.
那么,作为心理教育工作者,就有必要研究这个问题,从方法学和心理学的角度入手,结合其他诸如系统论和控制论等系统知识,想放设法把学生个体内在的潜能激发出来,这样,就达到了开发人,促进人,发展人,进而成就人使人走向成功的目的。
So, as a psychological educator, it is necessary to study this problem, from the perspective of methodology and psychology, combined with other system knowledge such as system theory and cybernetics, try to stimulate the potential in the students, in this way, to achieve the developer, promote people, development, and make the person to the purpose of success.
孙子兵法上讲“知己知彼,百战不殆”,因此在激发每一个个体之前,对这个个体进行充分的了解,做好细致的分析是非常重要的事情。在激励人发展过程中,首先我们要对这个个体进行必要的充分的了解,掌握这个个体的一些情况,然后,在对这个个体做一下系统的分析,把握个体的性格特点,兴趣爱好,行为方式,各种习惯等。这样,就为进一步地对这个个体进行教育引导和激发他的潜能提供的必要条件。
So, as a psychological educator, it is necessary to study this problem, from the perspective of methodology and psychology, combined with other system knowledge such as system theory and cybernetics, try to stimulate the potential in the students, in this way, to achieve the developer, promote people, development, and make the person to the purpose of success.
In Sun Tzu's method of War, "know yourself and the enemy in a hundred battles". Therefore, it is very important to have a full understanding of this inpidual and do a careful analysis before stimulating each inpidual.In the process of encouraging human development, first of all, we should have the necessary full understanding of the inpidual, master some situations of the inpidual, and then, in the inpidual to do a systematic analysis of the inpidual, grasp the inpidual personality characteristics, interests, behavior, various habits, etc.Thus, it is necessary to further educational guide this inpidual and stimulate his potential.
一:如何系统了解这个个体的信息和情况呢?主要通过以下几个方法:
1: How to systematically understand the information and situation of this inpidual?Mainly through the following methods:
（1）通过个体所在的家庭成员,每个个体的真性情往往最能在家庭中体现出来。因此,通过个体所在的家庭成员,譬如,通过个体的爷爷奶奶、父母、兄弟姐妹等家庭成员的评价和信息就可以很好地掌握第一手材料。
(1) Through the family members of the inpidual, the true temperament of each inpidual is often best reflected in the family.Therefore, the first-hand materials can be well mastered through the members of the inpidual family, for example, through the evaluation and information of the inpidual grandparents, parents, siblings and sisters.
(2)通过个体的学校相关老师,我们研究的个体一般大部分时间都在学校里度过,而个体的行为表现和思想品德状况,作为个体的老师,掌握的情况还是非常切合实际的,因此,要特别重视这一信息途径。
(2) Through the inpidual school related teachers, the inpiduals we study generally spend most of their time in the school, and the inpidual behavior and ideological and moral status, as inpidual teachers, grasp the situation is very practical. Therefore, special attention should be paid to this information channel.
(3)通过个体的同学或好朋友,是的,现在的中小学生就是这样,有些事情不愿意和家长老师说,或许这里有代沟的原因,当然还有个原因,就是有些事和家长或老师说了,他(她)没有安全感,因为他们很在意来自老师或者家长对事情的看法、评价和对自己的态度,或许,他们担心很多事情说后,来自长辈或老师的态度会是负面的,这对他们而言,充满了忐忑和担忧。但是,他们则乐于跟他们的同龄人或好朋友倾诉,因此,通过对个体同学或好友的了解和对他们的评价,可以比较准确地把握这个个体的情况。
(3) Through inpidual students or good friends, yes, now primary and middle school students are so, some things are not willing to say with parents and teachers, maybe there is a generation gap, of course, another reason, is some things and parents or teachers said, he (she) insecure, because they care about from teachers or parents on things, evaluation and their attitude, perhaps, they worry about a lot of things, from the elders or teachers will be negative, this for them, full of anxiety and worry.However, they are willing to talk to their peers or good friends, so, through the understanding of the inpidual students or friends and their evaluation, you can more accurately grasp the situation of this inpidual.
（4）咨询师对个体直接的了解,建议咨询师在以上通过三种方法获取信息资料的基础上,再与个体正面接触,进一步的直接了解情况,这时候,咨询师应该先放下那些通过不同渠道获取的这个个体的信息和印象,而应该以一种全新的视角去通过和这个个体的交流沟通,通过对方的言谈举止等情况,通过自己的觉察和判断来界定对方的心境和人格特征。
(4) Consultant direct understanding of the inpidual, suggest that the consultant in the above three methods to obtain information, and then positive contact with inpiduals, further direct understanding, at this time, the consultant should first put down the inpidual information and impression, but should in a new perspective to through communication with the inpidual, through each other's words and behavior, through their own perception and judgment to define each other's mood and personality characteristics.
(5)最后,通过收集到的信息和材料结合自己对个体的认识,进行系统的分析、整合、反思、归纳和总结形成对这个个体的较准确的心理教育前置档案材料,内容要突出个体的性格特点、优点是什么,缺点是什么,敏感问题是什么,弱点是什么等等。这样,就为对该个体的进一步教育、引领、激发他的潜能提供了重要情况。在我们激励每个个体的时候,我们就会注意相应的一些问题。
(5) Finally, through the collection of information and materials combined with their own understanding of the inpidual, systematic analysis, integration, reflection, induction and summary of the inpidual more accurate psychological education front file material, content to highlight the inpidual personality characteristics, advantages, what are shortcomings, what are sensitive problems, what are weaknesses and so on.In this way, it provides important situations for the inpidual to further educate, lead, and stimulate his potential.When we motivate each inpidual, we will pay attention to the corresponding problems.
二:三位一体的概念及阐述。
Two: The concept and elaboration of the trinity.
所谓“三位一体”是指在爱、尊重、理解这样三个维度下,再加上重视成为一个整体的一个潜能激发模式,有如右下图所示,叫做激励学生个体心理能量的“三位一体”立体图。下面我们对这几个因素及体系做以下具体的分析:
The so-called "trinity" refers to the potential stimulation mode of love, respect and understanding, plus attention to becoming a whole, as shown in the lower picture on the right, which is called the "trinity" three-dimensional diagram that inspires students' inpidual psychological energy.Here, we will do the following specific analysis of these factors and systems:
（1）爱!什么是爱?就其含义而言,现代汉语成语词典是这样解释的,所谓爱就是对人和事物有很深的感情,例如,爱祖国,爱人民,爱父母,爱妻子,爱孩子等等,当然,还有爱惜,爱护的含义,例如,爱公共财务,除此之外,还有喜欢的含义,例如爱学习,爱劳动等等。但这里,我们主要是研究第一种含义。
(1) Love!What is love?In terms of its meaning, modern Chinese idiom dictionary is explained, the so-called love is to people and things have deep feelings, for example, love the motherland, love the people, love parents, love his wife, love children, etc., of course, and cherish, love, for example, love public finance, in addition, and like the meaning, such as love learning, love labor and so on.But here, we primarily study the first meaning.
我们说,要想教育好每个学生,就一定要对这个学生充满或者说建立一种爱的感情。因为只有对人或事物充满爱,我们才会在个体身上倾注感情和精力,才会奉献努力和汗水,我们才会产生能量和动力去做这件事情,去努力做好这件事情。
We say that in order to educate every student well, we must be full of or establish a love feeling for this student.Because only when we are full of love for people or things, we will pour feelings and energy into inpiduals, will contribute efforts and sweat, we will generate energy and motivation to do this thing, and strive to do this thing well.
爱的力量是伟大的,伟大的物理学家爱因斯坦去世以后,后人在整理他的信件的时候,就发现了一句他写的关于爱的名言,那就是“爱是世界上最伟大的能量!”是的,只有有了爱,我们才可以无条件的帮助别人,才能去理解,去包容,去支持别人!爱是阳光,它可以照进并温暖我们的心灵,爱是雨露,它可以滋润我们干涸的心灵,爱是春风,它唤醒了我们生命的绿色,爱可以抵御一切外在的困难、压力和坎坷与挫折。爱可以挽救一切,因此,我们在三位一体关系中,把爱放在了一个棱锥底层中间位置,意思是说,所有的其他项都是由爱来决定的,爱应该是能量产生的源泉。爱可以产生尊重,爱可以让人理解,爱可以重视别人!这是从爱的广泛性意义角度理解的角度解释的。但是,在我的“三位一体”心理治疗这个体系角度来说,则是在对个案重视的一体下,以爱、尊重、理解三个法则为三个维度展开的心理激励治疗方法。
The power of love is great, after the death of the great physicist Einstein, when finishing his letters, posterity found a famous saying about love, that is, " Love is the greatest energy in the world!"Yes, only with love, we can help others unconditionally, to understand, to tolerate, to support others!Love is the sun, it can shine into and warm our hearts, love is the rain and dew, it can nourish our dry hearts, love is the spring breeze, it awakens the green of our life, love can resist all the external difficulties, pressure and frustrations and setbacks.Love can save everything, and so we put love in the Trinity relationship in the middle of the bottom cone, meaning that all other items are determined by love, and love should be the source of energy.Love can produce respect, love can make people understand, love can value others!This is explained from the perspective of the understanding of the broad meaning of love.However, from the perspective of my "trinity" psychotherapy system, it is a psychological incentive treatment method with the three laws of love, respect and understanding under the three dimensions of paying attention to inpidual cases.
（2）理解法则:理解就是懂得,了解就是清楚地知道对方的情况,对对方的背景及环境和经历等情况非常清楚,并运用换位思考方法能站在对方的角度上考虑问题,在态度上和行为上能给予对方支持和尊重.
(2) Law of understanding: understanding is to understand, understanding is to clearly know the other party's situation, be very clear about the background, environment and experience of the other party, and use the empathy method to consider the problem from the perspective of each other, and can give support and respect in attitude and behavior.
对个体而言,理解也是一种很强的支持力量.我们说”理解万岁”甚至都以理解为主题写成了歌,被广为传唱.这说明,人人都需要理解,如果人们能相互理解,哪么,人与人之间得减少多少误解,消除多少争斗,甚至少发生多少无谓的争端和事件啊.
Understanding is also a strong supportive force for inpiduals. We say that "long live understanding" is even written on the theme of understanding, which is widely sung. This shows that everyone needs to understand, if people can understand each other, why, how much less misunderstanding between people, eliminate how many fights, and even how much less unnecessary disputes and incidents ah.
理解像春风能抚慰人们的心灵,理解像春雨能滋润人们的心田,理解像阳光能驱走人心灵的阴暗.理解能支配我们的行为向着积极的有利于事情发展的方向努力.理解可以让我们产生正确的态度.理解可以让我们回归自我坚持理性.所以,理解在助人中的作用是很重要的.
Understanding like spring breeze can soothe people's hearts, understanding like spring rain can nourish people's hearts, understanding like sunshine can drive away people's hearts of the dark. Understanding governs our behavior in a positive direction for things. Understanding can give us the right attitude. Understanding can bring us back to the self-persistence of reason. So, it is important to understand the role in helping people.
（3）尊重法则尊重的意思在说文解字上解释就是敬重、重视、尊敬。尊重古语是指将对方视为比自己的地位高而必须重视的心态及其言行,现在已引申为平等相待的心态及其言行,也就是说无条件的承认并接受对方所拥有的一切,不因自己的好恶而挑剔,指责和论断。
(3) Respect the meaning of respect in the interpretation is respect, attention, respect.Respect for the old saying refers to the mentality and words and deeds that must be regarded as higher than their own status, and now has been extended to the equal mentality and words and deeds, that is to say, unconditionally admit and accept everything that the other party has, not picky because of their own good and evil, blame and judgment.
尊重是人与人之间交往的媒介和关键环节!没有尊重就没有有效的沟通,没有尊重就没有真正的交流和理解,对于管理而言,尊重是实施人性化管理的前提,对与教育而言,没有尊重也就没有教育。尊重人包括尊重人格和权利,对那些急需获得尊重、信任、理解的求助者而言,尊重具有明显的助人效果,尊重来访者是咨询取得成功的基础。
Respect is the medium and the key link of the communication between people!Without respect, there is no effective communication, without respect, there is no real communication and understanding, for management, respect is the premise of the implementation of humanized management, for education, without respect, there will be no education.Respect includes respect for personality and rights, which has obvious helpful results for those who urgently need respect, trust and understanding, and respect for visitors is the basis for the success of the consultation.
（4）重视法则!重视是三位一体激励疗法的核心成分.所谓重视,就是认为人在德才能或长处等很多方面有很多优点或者认为事务很重要而认真对待!这种认真对待的现象可以通过对个体的态度和行为表现出来.是爱,尊重,理解,认可的集中体现。
(4) Pay attention to the law!Attention is the core component of the trinity of incentive therapy. The so-called attention is to think that people have many advantages in many aspects or think that affairs are very important and take them seriously!This serious phenomenon can be manifested by attitudes and behavior towards the inpidual. It is the concentrated embodiment of love, respect, understanding and recognition.
威利,山姆博士说过”人类天性至深的本质,就是渴求为人所重视.要注意,在这句话里,威利山姆博士用到了一个词”渴求”,不是”希望”也没有用”渴望”而使用”渴求”这个词来描述人们对于受重视的内在欲望程度!正像有人所说的那样”那是一种痛苦的,亟待解决的人们心理上的饥饿”从心理学的角度来说,如果我们能够满足人的这种心理饥饿,我们就可以掌握和控制别人的心理.由此可见重视在激励个体上是多么的重要.因此,我们一定要利用好这一重视法则.
Willie, Dr. Sam said, " The deep essence of human nature is the desire to be valued. Note that in this sentence, Dr. Willie Sam used a word "desire", not "hope" or "desire" to describe the inner level of human desire for attention!As someone said, "that is a painful, urgent psychological hunger of people to be solved." From a psychological point of view, if we can satisfy this psychological hunger, we can master and control the psychology of others. This shows how important it is to value it to motivate the inpidual. Therefore, we must make good use of this law of importance.
另外有的专家研究指出:渴求为人所重视,从心理学上讲,实质上是个体出于对”自尊”的渴求.有的专家指出,人之所以会发疯是为了功寻找在冷酷的现实世界中无法获得的自尊感。从这里,我们可以看出,“三位一体成功激励心理技术”体现了人性需求中马斯洛提出的人本主义高层次需求思想理论。
In addition, some experts have pointed out that the desire to pay attention to, psychologically speaking, is essentially the inpidual desire for "self-esteem". Some experts point out that people go crazy to find a sense of self-esteem that is not available in the cold real world.From here, we can see that the "the trinity successfully inspires psychological technology" reflects the high-level humanistic demand theory proposed in the demand of human nature.
总之,爱是前提,理解是基础,尊重是条件,最后重视是核心,这就是三位一体成功激励心理疗法的精髓和要义!
In short, love is the premise, understanding is the foundation, respect is the condition, and finally attention is the core, which is the essence and essence of the trinity successfully incentive psychotherapy!
我在运用:三位一体成功激励心理疗法的过程中:面对来访者,总是以爱心切入,然后用换位思考的思想,站在来访者的角度,用尊重和理解来进入来访者的内心世界,结合对来访者的前置了解,展开与来访者心与心的沟通,当找到来访者的内在需求和潜质闪光点,就给予充分的最大化的认可肯定,并给予无比的重视!!!这样,激起来访者的自信心!!如此,则往往激发起来访者的内在能量,甚至产生无限的潜能!通过三一体情感激励,达到了潜能激发的目的!实际中,根据新的心智模式的形成,需要不断学习强化的规律,坚持运用这种心理激励方法,关键是要有毅力!能重复坚持做下去,当然,每次做时都要有新的内容和赋能体现,都要引导来访者产生持续的内在动力,甚至爆发出巨大潜能,让来访者由懒散转为积极,由被动变为主动,最终会使他用汗水去点燃人生希望,用激情去成就人生梦想!
I use: the process of successful incentive psychotherapy: in the face of the visitors, always with love, and then with empathy thoughts, standing in the perspective of the visitor, with respect and understanding to enter the visitor's inner world, combined with the understanding of the visitors, and the visitors heart and heart communication, when find the internal needs and potential shining visitors, will give full maximum recognition affirmation, and give great attention!!!In this way, arouse the confidence of the visitor!!In this way, they often stimulate the internal energy of the visitor, and even produce infinite potential!Through the trinity of emotional incentive, the purpose of potential stimulation is achieved!In fact, according to the formation of a new mental mode, it is necessary to constantly learn the law of reinforcement, adhere to the use of this psychological incentive method, the key is to have perseverance!Can repeat to do, of course, every time you do to have new content and can assign, to guide the visitors to produce continuous internal power, even burst out of huge potential, let the visitors from lazy to positive, from passive to active, will eventually make him with sweat to ignite hope in life, with passion to achieve life dream!
这种方法,通过大量案例实践,取得了很好的实践效果,在多年的实践过程中,转化学习困难的学生和学习态度有问题的学生有一百余名,他们有的考上了理想的大学,毕业后去了不同的工作岗位,有的参军后考上了军校成了军官,还有的进了企业,后来成了技术骨干等等,总之,实践证明,我研究首创的这个方法是科学的,是有效的,是经得起实践检验的.
This method, through a large number of case practice, has achieved a good practice effect, in the years of practice, transform students with learning difficulties and learning attitude problem students have more than one hundred, some were admitted to the ideal university, after graduation to different jobs, some joined the army after the military officer, and into the enterprise, later became a technical backbone, etc., in short, practice has proved that my research pioneered this method is scientific, is effective, is up to practice.
作者简介:
about the author:
孙东刚:心理学专家,学习指导专家,高级心理督导师,高级亲子咨询师,师资类心理指导师,师资类心理咨询师,师资类学习指导师,高级私人心理顾问,高级EAP执行师,高级学习能力指导师,中国人生科学学会心理学专委会常务副秘书长,中国圆梦计划项目管委会常务副主任兼专家组委会主任,决策中国常务副理事长兼专家委员,中国专业人才库全国心理学考评管理中心专家评委,中国心理卫生人才网中国专业人才库心理咨询师考评委员会副主任专家委员,全国学习指导师考评管理委员会主任,中国人生科学学会心理学专委会心理学客座教授,今日头条认定心理领域创作者,《学习指导师》教材主编,《人生学》第一副主编,《中小学生心理手册》副主编,《三位一体成功激励心理技术》研发者,《学生个性化学习指导方案》研发者,《高考应对心理策略及能力培养》研发者,《方法结构学》研发者,《见证祖国70年》成功入选人物《中国名人百科》行业成功入驻人物,《决策中国》专家智库成功入驻人物,《五行心理学》一书顾问,发表教育、心理学论文及相关文章一百余篇,曾获全国心理学先进工作者荣誉称号,曾荣获全国心理学投击疫情先进工作者,司令员眼中的抗疫英雄纪实篇入选人物,中华网教育心理频道专栏作家,中华网教育心理频道(中华融媒体)责任编辑!
Sun Donggang: Psychology expert, Learning guidance experts, Senior Psychological Supervisor, Senior Parent-child Consultant, Teacher Class Psychological Mentor, Teacher-class psychological counselors, Teacher-class learning instructor, Senior Private Psychological Consultant, Senior EAP Executive Division, Advanced Learning Ability Instructor, Executive Deputy Secretary-General of the Psychology Special Committee of the Chinese Society of Life Sciences, Executive Deputy Director and Director of the Expert Organizing Committee of the China Dream Realization Plan Project Management Committee, Decision-making of China Executive Vice Chairman and expert member, Expert judges of the National Psychology Evaluation and Management Center of China Professional Talent Bank, China Mental Health Talent Network China Professional Talent Bank Psychological Counselors Evaluation Committee Vice Chairman Expert Member, Director of the National Evaluation and Management Committee for Learning Directors, Visiting Professor of Psychology, Special Committee of Chinese Society of Life Sciences, Toutiao identifies as psychological creators, Teaching editor of Learning Instrucor, First Deputy Editor of Life, Deputy Editor of the Psychological Handbook for Primary and Secondary School Students, Developers of The Trinity Successfully Inspired Psychological Technology, Developers of the Student Personalized Learning Guidance Program, Developers of "Psychological Strategy and Ability Training of the College Entrance Examination", Developers of Method Structures, "Witness the Motherland for 70 years" successfully selected "China celebrity Encyclopedia" industry successfully entered, "Decision-making China" expert think tank has successfully entered the figures, Consultant to the Five Elements of Psychology, Published more than 100 educational and psychological papers and related articles, He has won the honorary title of National Advanced Worker, He was awarded the National Psychological Attack Epidemic Advanced Worker, In the eyes of the commander, the anti-epidemic hero documentary article was selected, Columnist of China Network Education Psychology Channel, China Network Education Psychological Channel (China Huarong Media) responsible editor!
学习方法歌诀
Learning method song formula
孙东刚
Dong-gang sun
课前预习很重要,不明不解打问号。
带着问题去听课,有备听讲有效果。
老师反复强调点,课上学习之关键。
老师重点强调点,重要知识很关键。
凝神专注紧思考,力争理解消化掉。
典型例题要深思,思考方法和规律。
作业做前先复习,事半功倍好做题。
概念规律要掌握,吃透教材是对的。
典型习题反复练,知识内化练里边。
定时训练很有效,智能提升之法宝。
学练之后要总结,归纳总结知整合。
学习之后要反思,反思内化成真知。
平时总结反思中,知行合一致学成!
Pre-class preview is very important, not knowing the question mark.
Go to the class with questions, ready to be effective.
The teacher has repeatedly emphasized the key to learning in class.
The teacher emphasizes that the important knowledge is the key.
Focus on tight thinking, and strive to understand and digest.
Typical examples to think deeply, thinking methods and rules.
Review before doing the homework, get twice the result with half the effort to do the problem.
Concept law to grasp, thoroughly understand the teaching material is right.
Typical exercises are repeated practice, knowledge internalization practice inside.
Timed training is very effective, and it is a magic weapon for intelligent promotion.
After learning and practice to summarize, summary and integration.
After learning to reflect on, reflection internalized into true knowledge.
In peacetime summary and reflection, the unity of knowledge and action to learn!
孙东刚老师通过多年来在行业内积累的理论知识结合实践经验所著书籍和文章为全国各地学生和家长在心理转化方面指导了方向,其研发的学习方法同样在教学实践中取得了优秀的实际效果,为我国的心理学行业发展做出了积极的贡献。
Sun Donggang teacher through years in the industry accumulated theoretical knowledge combined with practical experience in books and articles for students and parents in the psychological transformation to guide the direction, the research and development of learning method also achieved excellent practical results in teaching practice, to the development of psychology industry in our country has made a positive contribution.
我们相信:学生群体经学习孙教授开发的以上有针对性的课程后,就会充满自信,专注自己的方向,懂得把努力写在行动上,把视角放在未来,把努力用在当下,让思维跟上趋势,他们会持续不断地把事情做好,然后把这一切加在一起,产生卓越,实现人生的梦想和辉煌!
We believe: the student group after learning professor sun developed the above targeted course, will be full of confidence, focus on their own direction, know to write efforts in action, put the perspective in the future, efforts in the present, let thinking to keep up with the trend, they will continue to do things well, and then put all this together, produce excellence, realize the dream of life and brilliant life!
